Over the last 2 days, I have seen 2 movies, Queen and Highway. Both of them have almost similar plots to narrate.
In Queen the girl has been refused a marriage alliance 2 days before the wedding. The reasons are that the guy has changed a lot and will not be able to handle this relationship any more. She goes her way to a solo honeymoon, later refuses the boy, and leads a life of her own.
Highway has a more pathetic plot to narrate. The girl is kidnapped during a long drive with her fiance 4 days before the marriage. She is tortured initially, but later finds herself comfortable in the captivity, and leads a life of her own. When her parents force her back to her home for marriage, she walks out of her house back to where she wanted to be.
While Queen is an absolute personalised account of the girl and her ways of handling herself, Highway has a brush with the law as police chases the girl and her kidnapper and finally shoots down the kidnapper.
As I watched Highway, my thoughts meandered to as to what these two films were trying to portray. Are they saying that the girls can lead her own life outside marriage and do what they feel best. It is indeed right, no harm, rather than get caught in a meaningless relationship and then wail the whole life.
Times have changed, the society has gone more individualistic than a social unit. There are people who are doing things differently.
There are recorded cases in India where the female goes out to work and male stays back home tending to the kids and the house. There are cases where the parents have taken off their kids from the education by rote and training them on a specialised skill of a sport. The education continues as a private candidate in home environs. This is within marriage.
The couples not getting married but living in together is an old story even in India. Now there are laws too that tend to cases of harassment for live-in couples. They marry when they feel like, or split, move in with new partners.
I have gone through article in newspapers, which says that women folk doing well in corporate sector lead the life of a spinster. They have their own homes, live a free life with their friends both males and females on their own account.
Life has taught us that nothing is wrong if done within limits in a balanced way. People complain of losing their identities in a married life and lead a tapered life all through. What is the harm if they lead their own life their way, without disturbing the society. The increasing rate of divorces in India also makes it a point to look at this aspect.
All this has ramifications to the society, and one would require a more broad minded view of things rather than the traditional one.
This is not only for females, it applies to the males too …. every one has a claim to lead a life of his own choice. If within marriage, you could co-exist, it is fine. Or walk your own free ways …..
I would like people to share their opinion specially ladies, some of my good friends with liberated views, Lata, Shobha, Aparajita, Rma, Snehji , Rashmi, Ekta, and anyone who wants to share the views.
You could disagree to with it completely …..and let me know what you feel about it …..